...............Welcome to Pseudo bachelorhood.......................
Don’t be surprised that why koushik
is welcoming bachelorhood, yes what you are reading is true. Sometimes, every
guy has to undergo pseudo bachelorhood for some span in his life. In my case am
currently in this stage, because my wife took maternity leave. She not only
took leave from educational ministry (our academic institute where she pursue PhD)
but also from my office (that is with me). Yes, what you heard is true, we had a
baby girl (Vinmayi) and we are proud parents.. hurray..!
Well, bachelorhood after marriage
is difficult, because we are so used to the family members. I can not consider
myself full without my wife, because wife will capture permanent integral
position in our life with or without our involvement. I am not sure, whether it
happens with them are not. More are less after marriage, we loose independency
in the subjects where we are autonomous before. Our routine time table changes
after marriage, we have to plan according to our partners. I guess, it is true
with majority of the cases. Though, initially it may trouble us but later we
get used to it. Now, suddenly when they deserted us for few days, we cant get out
of the family domain. Our thoughts more or less changes, and we started think
broadly after marriage. As we are so dependent on them, some times we struggle
to live without them. We don’t know where our missing cloths are, we don t know
what groceries need to be purchased, we also don’t know where our handkerchiefs
are. So strange, though you try to show off the world that you are the head of
the family, sadly, you can not even find some basic eminities which are in your
home. So, pitty…
Here comes the time to prove
ourselves, that we are autonomous and show that we can lead individual life. I thought the
same and I was bit happy for couple of days, because every thing is set in
place before she left. After, couple of days all the things were not in their
position and I felt that I was lost. But slowly, I kept my nerves calm and
started addressing each problem. I took some time to arrange kitchen as I want,
so as other stuff. Now, things came into my control. Now I have regular time table
when to wake up and what to cook. I also managed to read news paper, watch some
videos, chats with my wife and also learning some cool stuff. All my colleagues
in my office were surprise that I am cooking myself and also packing some food
for lunch. Actually, am feeling good that I am my own. Obviously, it brings
lots of respect from others and also you feel confident. Now, I strongly feel
that we men should welcome such lonely days once in while and enjoy the life by
ourselves with what we have. However,
there is some dissatisfaction that our life partners are not with us to share
our views but we need to use technology to cope up for few days..That's how the
life is..
This article is dedicated to all
new fathers who just became pseudo bachelors for few days..
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